Accept One Another WITHOUT Quarreling

How do you feel about believers who live differently from you? Do you argue over right and wrong? Or do you accept one another without quarreling?
When I was at Baylor, I lived in an apartment with some exceptional women. (Bless them! They were so patient with me!) I had just turned 21. It was my turn.

In my growing up home and church, alcohol was frowned upon–with good reason. I had seen the result of addiction in people I love. But I needed to know for myself. (Why is it that sometimes we have to learn lessons ourselves rather than from other people!)

One night I was experimenting with a wine cooler–in a coffee cup! (Puh-leeeese!) One of my friends came over (a sweet gal who was new in her faith). I only mention this because I was not new in my faith. I became a Christian ten years earlier and was quite the saint at 21! We visited–my coffee cup in hand–certain she had no idea of its contents. Because if she did, I was guilty! (Again … Puh-leeeese!)

Not because I was guilty, but because I dished out guilt to others for the same thing (quite possibly, to her)–and now I was on the other end! (I’m embarrassed and laughing while I write this!)

“Accept the one whose faith is weak, without quarreling over disputable matters,” (Romans 14:1 NIV).

“Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong,” (Romans 14:1 NLT).

That year was the beginning of new things for me. Not so much trying out all the things my parents said I shouldn’t. But seeing how judgmental and critical I was of others–for things I had no business judging. It was quite painful living on the other end.

The issue is not whether alcohol is right or wrong. The issue is how we view others whose opinion is different from ours. Do we argue with them, judge them, and shame them because their views and lifestyle are different from our own?

The Bible is crystal clear about many things. On those things, it’s our responsibility to speak the truth as clearly as God speaks it in His Word. But on issues that are not so clear, we are to give grace! To accept one another without quarreling.

What does it mean to live--without? Some people live without hope. God says live without grumbling! If we are His, He sees us without blemish. #write31daysYou never know. One day we may find ourselves in a situation we never intended. It is then, that grace is what we will want more than anything. In fact, it’s possible that we are the ones with weak faith.

If we let it, this is a place where grumbling can rear its ugly head. We might be able to show acceptance on the outside, but when we walk away, what conversation are we having with our steering wheel? If it’s not grace-filled, then we haven’t accepted the one who is different from us. Gut-check.




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8 replies

  1. Dianne, I appreciate your story and your point there. I can’t imagine you drinking a wine cooler in a coffee cup. 🙂 Yes, judgmentalism is one thing we can live WITHOUT. I love that Romans verse on acceptance. (My son is at Baylor!)

    • Judgmentalism is one of those things that, once it gets its talons fixed in you, it’s hard to dig them out! Always need the Lord’s reminders to give grace instead. (GO BEARS!!)

  2. OUCH! I miss many opportunities to show grace. Thank you for this reminder.

  3. Being judgemental is something that I’ve struggled with at various times. Pride goes before a fall and I landed in a place needing huge amounts of grace. It makes me think twice whenever I catch myself wanting to judge. What I still struggle with is how subtle and under the radar it can be in my life!

    • Jodi … you are sooo right about how subtle judging can be … and once you are in the habit, it is HARD to break. Thanks for stopping by!

  4. I’ve done it for sure! I love the practice of seeing things from other people’s point of view. it adds color to the world!

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