Growing with Others

Treasure Your Teens by Entering Their World

When I was a teenager, my mom was my best friend. God blessed me with three Christian girl-friends from church, and we were all very close. They were a year behind me in school and attended the cross-town rival. I loved my high school experience and enjoyed many friendships—but because of my stand for Christ, I was often alone. So my sweet mom was my go-to source for comfort. She knew about every crush, every disappointment. On days that were especially difficult, I would crawl onto her bed and visit with her. If it was the afternoon and she was… Read More ›

Blessing Others With Our Spoken Words

Sometimes God is so intent on your “getting something” that He practically bombards you with it at every turn. That’s what the last few weeks have been like for me. Every where I turn, every passage I read, is focused on a common theme … blessing others with my words. Not just any words, but spoken words. Yes. Words you say out loud to praise, inspire, strengthen, and encourage someone else. For me, this is primarily for my teenage “kids” who will not be teenagers much longer. Not too long ago I discovered that my daughter’s primary love language is Words of… Read More ›

3 Steps for Giving the Gift of Peace

I thought I was finished blogging for the year with the Christmas post I published a couple of weeks ago. But then, some life happened, and God moved in my heart. This, I must share with you. Did you know that one of the best gifts we can give this Christmas is the gift of peace to those we love? When my children were very young, one of the first things we taught them was to grant forgiveness when they were offended. A typical situation went like this: Sibling #1 broke sibling #2’s toy. We had them face each other and began… Read More ›

4 Practical Gifts Of Friendship In Action

I grew up in a medical family and the hospital was my second home. In some ways it still is. Whenever a family member or dear friend is admitted, I grab my “go bag” and head up there–more than content to sit and wait out whatever is ahead. I learned it from my parents. It’s what we do. The daughter of a surgeon and an RN, I’ve had my share of minor medical procedures–and a few not so minor. I’m just now on the other side of a medical issue. Most of my Facebook friends know that I had concerns with… Read More ›

3 Ways to Treasure Your Teenagers in the Midst of Frustration

I  love people and love being with people. As the years go by, however, I find that I need more and more solitude. My morning quiet time is a coveted, treasured time of getting ready for the day. When my teenagers were toddlers, it was quite the feat teaching them not to come downstairs while Mom was reading her Bible. Eventually, they learned. These days, however, it’s a different story. I can’t get up early enough to have a quiet time alone. School starts at 7:15. The bus arrives at 6:30. Our home is a madhouse of teenagers getting ready from… Read More ›

A Small Victory for This Overly-Helpful Mom

A couple of days ago I blogged about a sentence one of my daughters wrote in my Mother’s Day card:  “Thank you for being overly-helpful because I know you are just trying to make my life easier.” (You can read about it here.) God used this simple sentence to show me that, although I was trying to help my daughter through an extremely stressful situation, He was working in her life to mature her. She already had her situation under control. This overly-helpful mom had a small victory earlier this week! I started to write about it in a Facebook status, but it ended… Read More ›

When What You Want For Mother’s Day Changes

Yesterday was Mother’s Day—the day moms across America look forward to for 364 days. Breakfast in bed. Someone else to clean the kitchen for you. Receiving cards expressing appreciation and love. Maybe even a thoughtful gift. And what mom who tirelessly and selflessly serves her family doesn’t need it? She certainly deserves it! I used to look forward to those things. They are wonderful and so much fun. But my kids are older teens now—with their own lives–busy and full of everything you can imagine. Good stuff, too! With all of that, what I really wanted for Mother’s Day has… Read More ›